(Not as in physically harming, I dont hit people, but as in literally just touching). She does everything I ask even hold still for jackets and lifts her legs for her harness. If IT doesnt go,he cant bare to leave IT ALL alonee. I dislike this dogs disposition but I can deal with that. At the time I met my partner I had 6 rescue dogs. I am to the end of my rope. Recently married to a wonderful man, baby girl on the way and currently living the life in a wonderful relationship except one thing His dog. If I have to choose between my spouse and the dogthe dog loses all day everyday! I also told him that we are never close like we used to be, that instead of reaching for me, you reach for the dog. If you wanna know about them in detail, please read to the end. He treats her the same as yours does his dog. My best friend has a dog; she claims shes closer to the dog than she is to her husband because the dog follows her everywhere she goes. Your allergies seem much more extreme but I have minor allergies to my boyfriends dog and it makes my nose itch its so frustrating. Another year passed and my girlfriend and I decided to move in together. If youre the one who brought the pet into the relationship, be prepared to do a little extra work. Im at a loss. I cant make any comments about his dog because he always defends Nd puts the dog above me. [Nutritional Info], Read This If You Cant Sleep Without Your Dog [5 Tips], Read This If You Dont Have Time For Your Dog. Im sorry for all that youve gone through and are going through now. I went into the relationship not thinking my pets would be a problem,but since he has virtual power over the household, he has decided that they have to go. The last straw was when i suffered a severe allergic reaction ( couldnt breathe and eyes swole to the size of an apple)to the cats hair and was told by the doc to immediately remove any pets lest i wanted to risk life long asthma attacks, my husband to my utter shock defended the cat and refused to remove it as a precautionary measure. I felt rushed to eat my dinner. Or at least me, shes a heavy sleeper. She is putting her family first, but still valuing her pets. I never thought in my life I would have to give up my animals. Thats over the line.but he refuses to act on it . Me and my partner have been together for a year, I have a small dog (puggle) and he has a large dog (Rhodesian Ridgeback) its a rescue dog. I think that if two people are together and one is an animal lover and the other feels put out by the demands of an animalits better to go seperate ways. Maybe hes just adjusting to the new place. No I didnt want another dog and didnt have any plan to neuter my dog Caesar. That right there makes me feel like I am wasting my time. I vaccum probably twice a week, but there is still hair in the living room that drives him nuts. And beau can sense it. I told him that Ive compromised but I cant change my dogs behavior overnight. I wish you happier days . If your dog likes someone, they are usually good. You are prioritizing the dog over boyfriend/husband. The idea is to allow the dog to sleep in bed, but under your feet. Not all people are equal. Oh, and yes he takes the dog in the shower with him too. I cried the entire time when I signed the dogs over. My HUSBAND wanted a dog more than I. I like dogs, not love them. They are great dogs. Hi Julia, my partner has just left me for his dog.. Im 8 months pregnant, he got a puppy just before we found out I was expecting and Ive spent my entire pregnancy miserable and stressed, I was left to look after it- even though the agreement was he was to do that because Im not a dog person, he babyfied it so it wanted his attention constantly and was jealous of me and my 2 kids, it was messing in the house but he would not hear a word said against it, I tried and tried to just get on with it for his sake, I didnt want it in the first place and he used emotional blackmail to get me to agree to getting itif I cared about him I would want him to be happy etc. My boyfriend and I have started living together. My leather sofa was covered with a twin comforter. Sounds like your spouse loves you less than the dog. A disagreement about pets doesnt have to spell the end of your relationship, but it may require that each of you make some accommodations. Since then we have communicated about what it is that makes him upset1. And promises has been broken as far as who comes first, husband or dog. I dont vacuum as often as I should. Just changed some psychology in my way of thinking and its not that important. It started to get to the point of me doing most the dog duties. The relationship is still really new and at least Im trying. But I will always place my partner above my pet. But I do not require the companionship my finance seems to really seek in her life from an animal, her family had inside dogs growing up. He has two old dogs. Its so embarrassing to know these things. Its self humiliation and you ARE worth more than that! IF there was some sort of threatening behavior, such as your ex yelling at you, being physically intimidating, etc then the behavior of the dog is acceptable. My first dog was older when they met and therefore very sedate, the second dog was not into people, other dogs, she was very reserved, so having a puppy around freaks him out. Ive grown up with a couple Shih Tzus, birds, turtles, snakes, etc. Dogs do not fail us, we fail the. I dont have children and they have filled that void in my life brings forth the pivot in the issue of dogs/cats with respect to relationships between the animal and the pet owner. I am living it. My story is similar to all of yours in which your SO is in love with their pet. He never ever listens and never obeys! I didnt want him on furniture which he has done and not in our room. Happy wife, happy lifecmon he loves that dog. I dont understand that thought process either of getting upset that the dog is having to do dog things and then they try to make you feel guilty because you want the animals to be treated like a pet and be properly trained instead of being treated like your first born child? Its grose! Unlike your family your dog never disagrees with you, no matter how wrong you are, because it has no idea what you are talking about. When they have the world revolving around a dog, eventually they put you to the back of the line! I would never ask him to get rid of his animals because that suggestion is beyond cruel. Hes very protective of our 2 kids, so we are fortunate for that. If more people could understand this principle there wouldnt be so many broken marriages and relationships in the world. Both you and your boyfriend are investing a lot of time and emotional energy into the dogs. Basically, my girlfriend does not have the ability to create boundaries or is willing to instill some discipline with the dog. There have been instances while I have not been home that my dog will pee on the floor when he wants her to go outside or if he walks into the room (this has happened 5 times over 2 years). I had them for years. Then again its how you treat the dog, the dog learns from its owner. This makes me so sad. She said she would compromise and not let the dog on human spaces. Are you serious right now? Then, throwing that dog into a two (or more) person household, after having had the obsession/attention of their owner for so long, is a recipe for disaster. A retired couple who offered everything I did, with the bonus of not having my husband for a daddy. And it will., So true, dont count yourself short, you are worth so much more than being treated as you currently are. Well I wonder why? Jack Russells are not apartment dogs they were bred to be rodent catchers/farm animals ect. Dogs are great for narcissists; they put their human on a pedestal, revolve their world around the human, and never object. I completely broke down in tears. My SO tried to downgrade this saying oh, he wont really bite or i dont think its a big deal we got into a huge fight over that one. If its the relationship that is also at issue since this aspect of her personality never was previously know, is there someone that can keep the pet while you change your financial situation? i wanted to embark on a new relationship, and instead of prevented from doing so, because of the current interference from the cat. So, your significant other has a dog, and youve told them that its either the dog or you. Did I mention that I have to carry him down the stairs & soon will need to carry up the stairs. When we met he never told me he was a pet lover. But it's amazing how often we jump through psychological hoops of self-justification to convince ourselves that things are really working. If she cant honestly support your dream 100 percent to me does not seem worth it. I find hair still on clothes that Ive washed after being there. But I am miserable. The second cat is his moms and the cat is the most annoying cat ever, the cats been in diapers his whole life.. but he is perfectly capable of going to the litter box he even trys to go while hes wearing his diaper my boyfriends mom changes that cats diaper on the same counter she prepares food with out disinfecting it.. when i addressed my boyfriend he claimed she does.. My dog listens to me and is obedient when I tell him something but not so with my husband and this makes my husband furious. The dog barks heavily so much Day and night without change. I said bye. Ive had people say that I dont truly love my dog because we dont allow him on the furniture, and Im like really? We dont want dog hair all on the couch and definitely not in the bed, so he sleeps in his own bed downstairs. Her loss and my gain. Husband has been violent 2x in the 13 years and now again recently. Im sure this isnt the answer you want to hear but its the answer you already know: its time to move on. Thankfully the cat is fine now. There are PLENTY out there who would appreciate your dream and realize how AWESOME you are. I work too many long hours and its not fair to the pets. Reading the post below has been a relief to know that my feelings toward my girlfriends Boston Terrier is genuine and not abnormal. Best to put him in a bed in another room. Popular doesnt mean its right. He is a wonderful husband and father to our two kiddos, I love him dearly, but this is important to me at a level that I dont think he understands. Which was going well until now he hurt himself awhile ago and was sleeping in our room to watch him but now hes better and he said he loves having him in our room sleeping beside us so hes going to keep it that way. This comprehensive guide contains 15 reasons why your husband/boyfriend wants to rehome the dog and 23 possible solutions. Thank you guys for your advice; really appreciate it and it comforts me knowing Im not alone. Different breeds were actually bred for different reasons, and its funny because hardly any pet owner actually harnesses that energy and trains their dog what they are bred to do, especially terrier or bully breeds. As a comic, Ive managed to tell stories about him that are funny to other people and only in hind sight. Animals are pets, not people, and shouldnt be allowed to run the household. I feel for you, I really do. So heres my story. I dont want to feel hate towards the dog like Ive been starting to. I told myself if the marriage ended, I would Watch for signs of this in another man. I wish the best for you from one dog lover to another. Just because you want to be a furry freak, doesnt mean everyone else should applaud you for it. And Im so sorry for all that youve gone through. A dog and a cat knows right from wrong. Well he has a lab that he loves very much and I love her too. So anyways, we go to the shelter, just TO LOOK. He used to send me cat videos, say how cute to them, stroke them when we met one on the streets and so on. Thats borderline mental. Anyone who knows labs knows that they have two coats and shed INCESSANTLY. Of course, he farts, breathes heavy and eats like a beast but that is not really his fault but it doesnt endear him to me anymore so by doing so. The episode featured a family (husband, wife, 2 teenage kids) and their Pomeranian. I am an animal lover. We love our dog, but we do NOT treat him like a human child because hes not one. More and more lately if I move him somewhere he doesnt want to go. sometimes dogs are more prone to certain behaviors or traits dependent on their breed. He thought it was an endearing moment. I sleep on the sofa. Think about a puppy who bites you as a result of being a bit exceedingly excited. I find it so upsetting when people equate dogs to children. Shed sit on the far left of the sofa. I am seeing my partner for two years now and convinced Im loved more than her dog. Im not sure how much more of this I will be able to tolerate :-(. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. One study found that the average dog causes 2,000 arguments in his or her lifetime. And I made it clear when I brought him home the dog was HIS responsibility Not mine not the kids. After all, when on walks the dogs sniff at everything and my wife cuddles her dogs and doesnt always wash her hands or face afterwards. Its all about compromising and some women cant get everything they want just like men. I actually use to really enjoy his dogs company, but ever since my fianc and I moved in together (this being our first time living together), I see things a little bit more clearly when it comes to the dog. I think its the most disgusting thing ever, and they just let their cat scratch on furniture rip up boxes and shoes and let the cat walk around on the dinner table. My dog doesnt go in the bedroom or the study, only the living room and the kitchen. We now have an 11 month old and I am afraid he will be the next victim. The reason why I want to mention this solution is that lack of exercise could lead to so many troubles, making your husband/boyfriend trying to rehome the dog for the purpose of escape from the problem. Incorrect. My boyfriend hates my dog and is really mean to him, I love his dog I just get tired and frustrated of him not respecting me. I keep joking saying I want to get rid of her and he hows back hell get rid of me but Im partially not joking. I have owned and loved pets all my life, as part of my family, but they never usurped my human family members. I did also tell him about this website and that Im not alone feeling like this, I think that helped him see things from my perspective as well. I also have the same issue with my cat! He says I should be happy with the one dog I have now, and where i appreciate him allowing the dog to live with us, I cannot shake the feeling of being incomplete. Use this site to investigate unknown phone numbers that raises red flags. Are you kidding me??? His wife was disgusted because she said that the dog should have stayed on the ground while they ate and now the next person that comes in will be sitting and eating where a dog was? I finally told her a few weeks ago that the animal needs to find a new home. I found him tripping and cant see where dog is helping him at all. The dog does not like being outdoors and scratches frantically. Hes vomited so many times and has ruined our outings! Thanks. It seems like the overwhelming majority of people who are adversely affected by dogs seem to like dogs but believes they should be treated like animals rather than four-legged humans. My family however? He sleep at his own house. Think about when you have kids? Not to mention how he cuddles and talks to his dog all evening. That wont change Kelly. I feel that this is not a time and a place to have dogs, where we should get used to living with the 2 of us and building our life and a good foundation together as newlyweds and have a good quality of life where I can get my night sleep and just live in peace and harmony. She has about 7 years left of her life so this is a very big commitment. So sorry youre going through this like you said, its not the dogs fault, its the HUMANS fault! Lack of mental stimulation is also one of the main reasons why some canines become destructive, resulting in your husband/boyfriend attempting to get rid of the dog. In fact, giving less attention to the dog all of a sudden can lead to a number of psychological issues. But at the end of the day they are JUST animals!!! Hes been through tons of owners and they have all given up on him. Rather, he makes a long long list of excuses for her retarded manipulative behaviour. If you hate your spouses animals, you should leave. Dan, I certainly understand wanting to continue the relationship. I hope that some training will be worth trying. I also said that i dont want to buy all this new stuff only for them to go and ruin it. I keep telling myself that the novelty of having the dog will wear off and he will soon be back to giving me the kisses and cuddlesbut its hard to sit back and wait till that happens, and what if it doesnt. And worst of all take time away from our relationship. There are a few things you should try before giving the dog up. Last night, I saw walked outside and saw the lights in my basement on, so I went down in the basement to find her dog running around. ! For god sakes! So, since my Chihuahua was the only one fully house trained & shes such a good dog, we agreed that we would keep her, but the other 2 dogs would need to find new homes. my question is , is it wrong of me to get upset cause the dog gets all the attention and I barely get any. I treat both equally. You and your happiness need to come first. And jetaime, it only gets worse. I also have a dog of my own. Compromise. Then I knew another little personality would enter my life to train, love, and cherish while they were with me. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. If he took the time to seek a trainer, and learn how to maintain a dog, i would support him. I find this very unsanitary. I am beyond the end of my rope and want my relationship to not be in jeaopordy. Janet, Im getting to the point that I want to give it away because its a threat to my baby. I do not believe that you should suddenly expect your dog to sleep without you after a routine that has gone on for some years. Like you said, there has to be some give and take and thats what youll have to do if you want to be with him and vice versa so you both and can happy. It feels so annoying when you hear heavy barking for long hours, even at night. Especially my husband, he is notorious for leaving clothes thrown on floor, leaving tools out over the place, NO NO NO no more PETS! This is where the problem comes in, his Godchild got him a puppy for his birthday, his birthday was 2 months ago but he got the gift today. I have asked my parents if they wish to foster my baby as i know he will be happy there provided That theyv always treated our dogs like kids. Otherwise Id have shut the dogs away for him and Id have known from day one that dogs were a no-no. she claims hes depressed with her daughter not being here. UGHHHHHH!!!!! Or at least thats why I didnt want the dog on the bed in the first place. I was irritated and so was he. So I would encourage you to stand firm now before you get too emotionally involved with him. Trust me. Anyone who keeps a dog after its attacked a child is mentally deficient. I already have a 11month old shepard mix male. Which I dont mind playing sometimes. I have said I do not want the dog in bed but it goes ignored. As people have disappeared into their screens there is an expectation by some that they neednt live in the real world; that dogs or games or something they can control which does not include another living/breathing human is the central focus in their life. Spray some in the dogs mouth so she knows what it tastes like, then spray it on whatever you dont want her to chew. My three year old son has been bitten twice also with bleeding wounds. Its sooo disturbing! A pet is still an animal!!! 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